Mistakes to avoid!
Divorces and separations have outnumbered happy relationships today. Marriages are losing their credibility and the younger generation is opting for live-in relationships to stay away from complicated procedures in case of a mismatch in opinions or lifestyle. No amount of advice and counseling seems to be working, which is eventually giving way to failed relationships and this is a major cause of concern in today’s world.
Many people fall apart and their world seems to crumble after going through relationship woes. Others who are stronger and less sensitive do not mind entering another relationship but are least bothered about breaking up again, for they are prepared for it. As a result, the chain of relationship wreck continues and the sensitive bunch suffers.
Let us see what actually creates problems in a relationship. Here are some common mistakes that young couples unintentionally make that ruins their relationship.
Expecting your partner to change for you.
Nobody is perfect, and expecting your partner to change as per your preferences is the first step to a strained relationship. Even if the other person promises to change for the sake of love, it is not assured that things will improve for the better. There will be some or the other issue that will keep cropping up and the loop will go on. Accept your partner as s/he is unless they have some unhealthy habit that they should get rid of.
Disrespecting differences between you.
No two people are same and there ought to be differences between them. However, it is imperative that you respect your differences and not let them weigh your relationship down.
Allowing third person interference.
The biggest mistake that young couples make is allowing a third person – be it your parents or in-laws or even a friend – to interfere in your relationship. And you never know if that person is mature enough to solve your problems or will simply add to it. Trust me, it is only you and your partner who can handle the situation.
Holding onto your grudges
Piling up issues and holding on to grudges will only worsen the relationship. Let it go and stop carrying around that unnecessary baggage.
Fighting/arguing to win.
People often argue or fight to prove their point. It is nothing but your ego that forces you into this unwanted act. It is always advisable to talk it out, present your point of view, and find out ways to sort it out or simply put an end to the issues. Dragging the point will not help anyone and will only worsen the problem
Not accepting your fault.
Most of the times, couples let their ego take over them that refrains them from accepting their fault. Nobody has ever died of apologising. So, just put a full stop to the blame game and offer your apologies even if you are not at fault. Don’t let your ego win over your love. Your partner – if s/he loves you – will definitely realize her/his mistake in some time and will adore you for being so humble.
Lack of communication
Communication is the key to a happy relationship. If you don’t talk to each other or give precedence to silence over communication, then your relationship is indubitably going to suffer.
Difference in opinion regarding family planning.
It is possible that one of you wants to have a baby soon while the other still needs time to be prepared for this responsibility. Do not rush into things and take decisions mutually. After all, it is going to affect both of your lives and you won’t want the child to suffer later.
Not making time for each other.
Your relationship is your priority, give it its due share of time. Everything and everyone needs time to grow and flourish. Water your relationship’s plant every day if you want to see it bloom
Neglecting your partner’s emotional and physical needs.
One of the major relationship mistakes that young couples today are making is ignoring their partner’s needs, be it emotional or physical or both. You need to understand that in today’s world, everyone is replaceable and if your partner isn’t getting her/his needs fulfilled by you, then s/he will seek someone else for it.
That, my friend, will blow your relationship to pieces.
It’s never too late to mend. Try and avoid these relationship mistakes if you want a blissful life and wish to live happily ever after.